I’ve always worn my heart on my sleeve. I have so much love to give. But recently, I’ve been finding myself again & working on me. Which has led me back to love – time & time again. I realized I have always given it so freely, and expect that same love back. I realize I’m not the easiest person to love. But who really is? Nobody is perfect.

The truth is, you have to work each and every single day with your partner. It’s not easy. That is something I have been struggling with personally for some time. You may not always see eye to eye on some things. And that’s okay!

But you have to remember – your feelings are relevant!! Don’t ever let someone tell you that the way you FEEL is wrong. We aren’t on this planet for someone to tell us the way feel isn’t okay, or isn’t enough.

One thing I’ve struggled with in just about every relationship I’ve ever been in is arguments. I’m learning that they’re not always a bad thing. I’m not talking about the messy, screaming & yelling types of arguments. Those aren’t healthy. I’m talking more along the lines of disagreements. Instead of arguing back and forth for no real reason, learn to work through the issues. I am so bad about bottling up and just putting how I feel aside just to extinguish the fight. Explain how you feel & why you feel that way! Stand up for yourself and your feelings!

Over the last few weeks I’ve been silent, emotional, sad, happy & confused. I felt like giving up on everything. Like I wasn’t good enough or loved enough. This is where you have to communicate with your significant other, not bottle up and get quiet. They don’t always know what’s going on in your mind! For me, that was absolutely true. I had been so quiet for so long that I almost forgot how to communicate at all- good or bad! I am one to get VERY quiet when I get upset. I tend to push people away once I feel unloved or unwanted or even unappreciated- even if that’s not even actually what is going on. I start giving up & distancing myself. That’s not healthy! I truly believe you need to face your issues head on, and work them out. I’m learning how to do this better every single day.

If you’ve ever felt lonely, unwanted, or even unappreciated- I encourage you to just speak up! Talk to your partner! Tell them what’s going on in that jumbled up mind of yours. And really LISTEN to what they have to say. If they support you, they’re going to appreciate you coming to them & wanting to work on things. You don’t have to feel alone in your relationship. Just talking has helped us so much, even in the last week.

Also, another thing I recommend is definitely getting in touch with your love languages. You and your partner should both take this & share your results! Go over them together and even talk it out! If you’ve never taken the love languages quiz, you totally should! It’s free and it really gives you some insight on yourself and your partner’s wants and needs! Check it out!

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It’s okay to fall apart, but if the pieces aren’t going back together right – you may want to reconsider your relationship! Don’t just stay because it’s comfortable, truly work on things! & if your partner isn’t willing to put in the work then was it ever really worth it?

Bottom line, if you’re not happy- WORK ON IT! Talk it out. You may be surprised where it gets you. It has given me a second chance at a healthy relationship with my man.

And ladies, if you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here! I’d love to connect and just chat! We all need someone we can count on, someone that understands us & the way we thing. Because let’s face it, our brains work completely different than our man’s brain!


The Truth About MLM

I’m sure you’ve seen the random posts. Girls saying “join my team”, “trial packs available”, “only 5 spots left”. Heck I used to do that! (Still do trial packs because who does like free stuff? Haha)

I get asked all too often WHY I chose network marketing. WHY I decided I wanted to put myself out there. WHY I would ever want to sell things on social media. I mean.. who does that?! … turns out.. a lot of women do! Lol

So here’s the raw truth & my story:

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I truly have never wanted anything out of life.. I have never had goals.. never cared what others thought about me.. never really had a niche at all. I was always just.. living life. Most of the time I was living paycheck to paycheck.

My friend (from my last networking marketing gig) noticed my struggle. I wasn’t scared to post issues on Facebook. She came to help. She was there when I was absolute rock bottom. Struggling hard core to even meet rent. She presented me with an opportunity to join her biz. I was so terribly skeptical. I told her no probably… 5 times. But she insisted that it would be a good opportunity. So I gave in. After seeing some of the biz testimonials, I decided I didn’t want to struggle anymore. I realized that you don’t HAVE to struggle.

So I did that biz for a few months. I did fairly well, got customers & a few promoters. All was fine and dandy. And then I realized. This isn’t me! What am I doing? Why am I messaging all of my friends & family hounding them to buy from me? This isn’t right! After having “message everyone on your friends list even if you don’t talk to them” engraved in my mind, I just felt so.. gross about network marketing. So I took a step back. Well, more to the side really.

I felt so bad about all my friends & family that I pretty much was taught to trick into selling to.. that wasn’t me at all. And that’s how my company was teaching us to be! “90 day challenge”.. was really just another phrase for, sign up for 3 months because any other way you’ll be paying twice the price (or more!). I was ashamed. I have higher standards than that. Maybe that’s just the way my leaders did it, maybe that’s how the whole company does. I really don’t know. All I know was that it just wasn’t ME.

After being inactive in marketing for a while, I started doing research. I wanted to find a company that did things the right way. A company who I didn’t feel gross for working with. And that’s when my current biz fell into my lap. (Actually 2 of them!)

Did you know most millionaires have more than one stream of income? I didn’t until recently.

Anyways, I had two amazing companies land in my lap. So I took another leap of faith.

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My health and wellness biz has inspired me to feel & look amazing. It has put me on my wellness journey that I needed a small kick in the ass to do. I’ve always been fairly skinny. Well. For most of my adult years. Then 25 hit and my body didn’t know what it was doing! Y’all, I gained over 40 pounds! Granted.. probably needed about 20 of it! But the other 20.. I could do without. I’ve been challenging myself (and some of my friends) to eat healthier.. I still hate the gym, but I do home based workouts (sometimes lol).

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My beauty biz has made me blossom. I’ve always loved makeup. It’s just kind of part of me (and a lot of other women). But I never really took the time to do anything other than the basic look I had always done. Playing with makeup is so freaking empowering to me! When I accomplish a new look, or nail a hard look.. y’all that’s the fun part!

I quickly realized I wanted to help people. People like me who knew the struggle. I mostly gear things towards women since I can’t really be inside the mind of a man. I learned that I needed to be speaking life into people. That’s my calling. Empowering the next woman! But to do that.. I truly needed to do work within myself.

So I’ve gone on an extensive personal development journey. It’s a never ending journey. You should NEVER stop trying to be a better you. Everyday should be a learning experience.

I have had the privilege of working side by side with some of the MOST inspiring women I have ever met. And that’s another reason I am truly grateful for my journey. I would have NEVER met these ladies if it weren’t for network marketing. I would have been stuck inside of my same bubble forever. Never bothering to branch out. I didn’t even KNOW there was women in the world like these ladies!

I’ll be completely honest, I am WORKING on the financial freedom side of these businesses. The one you always see ladies posting about. Saying they are making tons & tons of money. Y’all, I’m not making that yet. And I say yet lightly – that money is there & I will be making it. On top of some other bonuses. But right now my main focus is ME! And my future & my business endeavors!

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But, I have so much faith in my future and everything is so clear to me that I don’t have to worry about when the money is going to come! It comes when YOU are ready for it. Not when you think you’re ready. But when the universe says you are.

I have even hired a freaking biz coach! Like what?! Totally scary step for me & I did it. I’m investing in my future because I know it is so big and bright that I can’t even fathom it yet. Of course, I can sit here and dream all day and think about what my future will look like – but I am working my butt off every single day to get my biz to where I want it to be.

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These network marketing companies don’t represent me or who I am OR even what I have to offer. They’re simply a tool to get where I want to be. My brand is not those companies. My brand is ME & what I have to bring to the table.

But not only have these biz’s & my journey helped me with my self confidence.. they’ve helped me learn some real hard truths about life. I’m learning to never give up.. to pursue my dreams.. to FIGHT for my dreams.. to be uncomfortable.. to expect & embrace change.. to love myself.. to love others.. to TALK to people.. to help people.. to want to make a change in this world.

Since starting network marketing, my heart has been opened & is so full. I cannot wait to continue this journey and see where it takes me. I am so pleased at where my life is heading & the journey I get to take to get there.

So there’s the truth & here’s to becoming a Six Figure Biz Babe!

Mental Health Awareness

So let’s talk depression & anxiety. I’ve literally been dealing with it for most of my life. I’m sure quite a few of you have too. The crazy part is, I didn’t even realize I was going thru it. I just thought life sucked for everyone really.

I grew up with parents who fought constantly. They eventually got divorced. And long story short, I moved in with my wonderful grandparents. I will make a post about my story later! I just want you guys to know that it’s NORMAL to go thru things.. it’s normal to be down. But when you get stuck there.. that’s where the issue is. There’s a quote that says “you grow thru what you go thru” and that is so sooo true.

To be honest, I didn’t start personal development until about 5 months ago. And I am so thankful I was doing it when I was.

So let’s be raw.. my dad committed suicide about 4 months ago now. If I hadn’t have started this journey I’m not so sure where I’d be. If it weren’t for all of the podcasts and growth, I don’t know if I would have been able to cope in a natural way. I would have kept it bottled inside. Which is even worse.

Yes, you’re probably like what the heck Ashton, how are you not so depressed??

Well here’s the truth! My dad and I have been fairly disconnected for years. Yes, I loved him.. but it’s like this. I haven’t spent more than a day with him since I was 17.. yes, I lost my father, but more than anything I really lost a friend. He hasn’t been a father figure in my life in years. I also know that he is always by my side watching over me.

I strive each and every day to live my life to make him proud. I feel closer to him than I ever did when he was alive & breathing on this planet. I see him in my dreams, and I think about him daily.

I have learned that it’s okay to be yourself. You don’t have to pretend to be a (excuse my language) bitch just so people won’t come talk to you. I never wanted to talk to people. I just wanted to be left alone. I hated explaining how I felt because usually I couldn’t get my thoughts out in words. Which is kind of the reason I write. I have a hard time just… talking. It’s not natural for me yet. I hated being called on in school, presentations literally made me sick.. public speaking is a fear that I’m working on getting over.

That’s where the anxiety comes into play. I’ve been on anxiety meds for about a year now. I was so stressed out at my old job that I literally drove myself into anxiety & stress.

Since switching jobs, eating a little healthier, and choosing to thrive, I have been my best self. I wake up early, I am happy when I wake up, I am stress free, I am mentally stronger, and I have so much clarity on what I want out of my life. And an amazing thing to note: I’ve fully quit taking my anxiety meds!

I was never a goal maker.. let alone a goal accomplisher. I hated goals because I didn’t want to fail myself & be more depressed.

Y’all, these 3 steps I do daily (I can share more about this later, too), on top of my personal development journey — it’s changed my life. I am a completely different person than I was just 5 months ago. I am happy. I am peaceful. I’m not stressed. I’m not as moody.

So since I never liked to make goals, I am going to declare them here, publicly. I am thankful that I will be able to quit my full time job in 6 months. I will be working out & working on my physical self along with my mental self. & I will buy a house next year.

I challenge you to make some short term & long term goals for yourself. Write them down. Make a vision board!

If you’re just wanting someone to talk to, I’m here just connect with me. If you’re wanting more info on what I’m doing or my 3 steps, message me. If you want to see more posts like this, let me know in the comments. I’m working on being more open and real with you guys.

Self Acceptance

Do you truly believe in yourself? Or are you just masking it? Do you have those positive thoughts and then immediately follow it with a negative? I did, and still do sometimes! I have always been tough on myself.

I never really thought I was good enough for money. I came from being poor living with my parents as a kid, to living with my grandparents and pretty much having everything I wanted and needed in middle school & high school, to being pretty poor again after that. Having a full time job, but barely making ends meet.

I promised myself years ago that I would never follow down the same path as my parents. I feel like your parents are there to teach you and guide you. Even though my parents didn’t really do that for me, I still learned. I learned from their mistakes. And you know what? That’s okay. I still know what I want from this life. Don’t get me wrong, I love them both so incredibly much. But they simply showed me what I didn’t want for my life.

I knew since I was young that I wanted to help people. I always thought I wanted to be a psychologist. Heck, I even started to go to school for it! But I realized fairly quickly that being a psychologist wasn’t my calling. I didn’t really know what I wanted to do. I always knew that I had something special inside me. This power to influence and feel what others feel. I just didn’t know how to use that.

The more I have dove into personal development, the more I started figuring out my calling. I just want people to feel good & live their best lives. I want people to be genuinely happy and abundant. But I realized before I could help others I really needed to dig into myself and work on my demons.

My life hasn’t been crazy chaotic, I didn’t grow up in an utterly terrible home, I had 2 parents that did love me, I had two amazing grandparents that cared for me when things went south with my parents, I always had a roof over my head, I’ve always worked for what I have wanted, I have always had some kind of back up help if I truly needed it, I have never not eaten a meal because I couldn’t afford it. But there was always something that was just off about me in general.

I thank my grandma for the conversation we had at lunch today because it fully provoked this whole message. I was telling her that I always felt like.. I couldn’t connect with people. Like I was a black sheep. Like small talk wasn’t enough. I still to this day despise small talk. I find it utterly boring. I want to talk about the universe, traveling, the stars, the beautiful things we see each day, the cool things that happened to us today.. I am so terribly bad at small talk y’all.

I knew I needed to dive into why I felt like I couldn’t open up to people if that’s what I WANTED to do. I have always been pretty shy. Public speaking literally makes me want to throw up. It always has. I’m not sure what really sparked that. Maybe it was an experience I can’t remember from my childhood?

I have always had to write my ideas out before I could speak them. I’m not good on the spot. Whether it’s something I’m fully passionate about or not. These are all traits that I felt like people didn’t want. They didn’t want a leader who was scared to talk. They didn’t want a leader who tripped over their words. They didn’t want a leader who can’t get out a clear thought without first writing or typing it.

But truth be told.. that’s what you’re getting! I finally figured out that I can write and get all of my points across. That I can use my “voice” over typing and still be heard. I figured out that you people are here for ME. Not because I’m perfect, but because I have flaws.. just like each and every one of you. You can connect with me on a certain level because I am me.. and you are you. It’s truly amazing. Maybe it’s okay that I don’t always show up on Facebook live. Yes, I’m still working on it. I’m still working on me! But that’s okay! We live in a ever- changing world where we need to be constantly developing ourselves.

Don’t let your past control your future. It’s in the past for a reason. We live and learn! Those things people have told you.. or said about you.. that doesn’t matter. All that matters is what is in your heart and how you pursue it. So there is no reason in this world that you shouldn’t believe in yourself.. believe in your message. Everyone has a story to tell! So tell it! You may help one person or a million people. Either way, that’s a win! Either way, you’re good enough for whatever you desire in life! So follow your dreams, live your best life and thrive!

Car Girl Goes Blogger

Every girl has a dream job as a child. What was yours? I’m sure you remember. Mine always seemed to be changing! I wanted to be a dancer, a gymnast, a dentist, a psychologist, a teacher, a mechanic. Y’all, it was ALWAYS something different. Up until about three months ago (yes 3 MONTHS!), it kept changing. I could never finish school because by the time I got to my actual degree classes I would always think.. “man this is not for me”. I could never bring myself to finish any of it! Maybe you’re thinking “nobody really does what they really want to do!” or “that’s just an excuse!”.

Growing up, I was always right next to my dad while constantly working on his truck because it was ALWAYS broken. Handing him tools and jamming to old school Metallica. I’m sure you remember the small memories like that from your childhood. In high school, I had a friend who was really into cars and it kind of stuck with me! I ended up working in Auto Parts stores and dealerships. Weird for a girl, I know! It’s always been a struggle.

It’s like this.. you have to constantly prove yourself as a female in the car industry. I actually stopped wearing makeup to work because I felt like I got looked down on for being a “girly girl” and trying to sell car parts. I have had so many men say “can I speak to a male?” or “are you sure you know I’m talking about?”. That’s almost an everyday thing. But that is what has made me who I am today! Confident in all things!

I wholeheartedly know I can do anything I put my mind to! I put so much effort and positive energy into things I want (and don’t want) to do. I’m consistently trying to prove myself! In all of this, I’ve learned that I despise working for “the man”… I hated having a boss! So I started thinking… “why don’t I do something I actually love doing?”.. “how can I be my own boss?!”. And you know what that is? Talking to people.. helping people.. Whether it’s helping someone with their makeup or a date outfit. Or even talking about healthy lifestyles and delicious food. I love giving my opinions when they’re asked (or not asked)! So why not blog about it?! Why not try to reach as many curious people as I possibly can? I can do this without a boss! I can do this on my own. In my free time- from bed, from the beach.. where ever! And it hit me, this.. THIS is my calling.

I don’t have kids (yet). But holy cow, working from home is my dream! I would be able to be home for my family when they need me. I wouldn’t be spending 2+ hours a day commuting in horrific Atlanta traffic. Why wouldn’t I jump on this? Why didn’t I think of this sooner?

So here’s to this new journey! And here’s to all the people that told me I couldn’t. You’re my motivation! If there’s any content you’d like me to cover, drop a comment below!